Staying connected....

You all know by now that I fight growing and changing . Okay, maybe more changing, then growing - but you know what I'm saying. I would have never thought that I would be one of those people, but I'm learning that I truly am. My girlfriend Kelley once told me that I didn't like change unless I was the one initiating it. At the time, this was several years ago, I thought she was insane. My whole life has been about change, at least since I turned 18. But, I'm thinking, my dear friend Kelley is correct. She has knack for this kind of stuff.

I keep reminding myself that it took me a full year to feel at home in Orlando. And, I'm realizing with each passing day that brings me closer and closer to a year, that Kansas City is starting to feel like home. I'm also learning a lot about myself. I learned that I feel more than I ever thought I did. I've learned that I worry wayyyy too much about other people and not nearly enough about myself. And, I've learned that no matter how hard you try to stop change, you just can't. I have no idea who I'm quoting when I say this - but the only thing in life that is certain, is change.

In the past 10 months in Kansas City, I've met and reconnected with some pretty amazing people. I've learned that a lot of people that I may have judged in the past, are actually pretty great. However, in this journey, I've sadly lost touch with a lot of people that were an important part of my life at one time or another.

It's extremely hard for me to articulate all of this, as I'm not trying to be conceited or bitchy. I've always been known as a connector. I LOVE meeting new people, then introducing them to my current friends, and continually growing a "group." I would say it's one of the things I'm very proud of and good at. I know I've connected a lot of people that will remain friends for a very long time.

However, in all the time I've spent connecting others, I feel as if I've lost touch with those that I was once connected to. It gets harder and harder as we get older to keep in touch. Which is strange, since technology makes it so easy. You can text while you're in a meeting, you get on Facebook in a bar, and you can email from your phone. Sure, it's not the personal phone call, but it's a simple act of, "I'm thinking about you."

I must admit there are times when I literally feel guilty for not texting someone back, returning an email or a phone call, or forgetting to comment on someone's great new photo on Facebook. I know it sounds silly, but it's true. And lately, I've been really bad about doing these things. I've been spending a lot of time trying to clear the drama from my life, and in turn, have cleared a lot of the good things in my life with it.

I miss my friends. I miss learning about your lives and knowing what's going on. I hate that the fact that some of you only know what's going on in my life via my blog. I do suppose that's why I blog, but I miss that personal connection. That connection that makes me say, oh wow, I miss you. And I do miss all of my friends that don't live in Kansas City so much. I think it's safe to say some days it hurts. But somedays, I'm just too tired, worn out, or distracted to make that phone call. So, more and more time passes, then it's no longer a 10 minute conversation, and then the connection is farther and farther away. And I hate it.


I love the new things going on in all of your worlds. I love that we're all growing and changing and becoming new, better versions of ourselves. I just hate that we aren't all as connected as we once were. So, to my friends that I don't see often, I love you and miss you terribly, and would LOVE to hear your voice. To my friends here in Kansas City, I'm so glad we've met/reconnected and look forward to a fantastic summer together!

love, love, love