Being an adult.....

I believe this was November/December 2008.....Kelley told me this was exactly what people should blog about....so here's your post Kel!

xoxo

I'm usually so surprised how fast life happens and how much things change. Today, I'm just pissed off. As you've all told me, life happens; you've grown up, it part of the maturity process, etc. If that's what I'm supposed to do, why the hell can't everybody else?

News flash, life is hard. Being an adult is really shitty sometimes. However, there's nothing we can do to change it. We're adults with adult responsibilities, things to take care of, and sticky situations to get ourselves out of. What happened to just opening your mouth and asking for what you want? I'm as guilty of as everyone else, but it's starting to get on my nerves.

I've found myself in some strange, strange situations I would've never been in a year ago by moving home. Instead of the biggest problem being why didn't that guy at the bar call me, it's now about kids and living together and marriage. Yuck. That's right, I said it….yuck!

But, this is the choice I've made, to move back here to be closer to family and friends. Don't get me wrong, it's not all bad, but some days I just want to shake people and remind them – we're all adults. Yes, some of us are better at it than others, some of us have more experience, and some of us just fly by the seat of our pants. But, nothing, and I mean NOTHING, gets resolved by not opening your mouth. You boyfriend pisses you off – tell him. You don't understand what your boss wants - ask him. You don't know why your best friends' been weird lately - get a bottle of wine and make her talk to you. It's not that tough. Sure, you might find out some things you didn't want to know. You might hurt someone's feelings. But, it's the only way to get an answer. I promise…answers don't appear out of nowhere. And when they do, it's usually not a good situation. Believe me, I know.

Did you ever stop to think that perhaps you're not giving the people around you enough credit? That perhaps though they may seem high strung and unreasonable – that they can think like rational adults if you give them the chance. Of course you didn't – you never stopped to ask. So instead we form massive wedges between the people we care about most at the risk of hurting someone's feelings. Well, that's it, I've had enough. If you want to be an adults and be treated like one – start acting like one.